Friend and lover dating
Sounds like the guy is "passive aggressive" I would read up on this. My opinion would be that you are seeing the red warning signs this early on and you should maybe take a step back and remember the big picture which is YOU.
I haven't seen him in a while but lately he has been calling and texting alot, but only when he's down or feeling lonely, I don't get it! I have seen this happen so many times and when the girl comes back around after being with a dozen guys or so. You've been out a couple of times and haven't seen him lately. What are you saying to him and how does he reply that seems like you're getting close? but that is why you signed up for POF to find someone. I have never once treated anyone like crap in my entire life.
The fact that he turns to you when he needs to talk to someone is in your favor and means that you are the person he trusts most. If it bacame sexual too fast that could make him lose interest or too slow. In point of fact, there is not reason for any woman to ever settle for that. I know that some men don't like to get backed into a corner, but screw that. You're a beautiful woman, either way it works out, you'll be just fine. Regardless of what they might be YOU become the lesser option. I go out of my way to respect the wishes of others, and strongly define my own boundaries.
You need to step up to the plate and make your move on him if that's what YOU want. Mominatrix,,, I am pointing out that Women treat men like crap all the time and then wonder why they won't take them back after the have been screwing 2 dozon guys.. He is holding on and still involved with something or someone else. If you see a red flag, it's best to consider it carefully, instead of ignoring it until it looks like a drill team.
That is the emotionally healthy thing to do."He says he wants to find a woman to love" is not the same thing as "He says he wants to find any woman to love".
While he's depressed and his need to find love is heightened because of his depression, he hasn't lost sight of his choosiness.
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