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And as much as I hate to say it: This is why millions of sexy Pinays want to meet you on Filipino CupidThe sickening ads that you see all over Manila, Cebu, and Quezon City are not the only reason why young Filipinas dream about marrying a Caucasian man.“He can support me and our future children. My child will become a movie star because all celebrities are half-white. My husband will treat me like a princess because everyone knows that Caucasian men are way more mature, responsible, and caring than Filipino guys”Absolutely! Five minutes of good feelings can lead to 18 years of stress, problems and payments. It’s sickening and it’s a shame, but that’s the reality. My sisters and cousins will be jealous because of my half-white babies. Think twice before you do it because it feels better. Nobody seems to care that these are win-win relationships in which the white man gets what he wants and the Filipina gets what she wants. But it can also be dangerous, especially if you don’t want to have children. She dreams about dating and marrying a man like you since she was a child, but the dream can turn into a nightmare when her king starts treating her like a slave.” As a member of an often-overlooked minority in the US, it was hard to build up the confidence to go after anyone, especially someone who belonged to a different race. By the time I met Brynn, I had already dated a few women in the States and wasn’t as clueless as I was when I first landed (thank God). (Nothing like a failed relationship in a foreign land to teach you that love and heartbreak are an international ordeal—goes through them.) Like a number of today’s couples, Brynn and I met through that modern facilitator of romance: Tinder. From the start, everything was pretty straightforward between us: I liked her, she liked me, neither of us played games.I often psyched myself out by thinking, “I’ve never dated a white/black/Latina girl before! ” For me, a clueless Filipino male in his early 20s then, dating in the States was like immediately playing a game you had just bought on “expert” level—even if you knew squat about it. I’m happy to announce that I am now with a great girl. I had been on Tinder for just a little while then following a bad breakup; meanwhile, Brynn had just moved from Florida to Seattle where I’m based for a change of scenery. Our courtship was nothing like the traditional months-long that’s common in the Philippines, because things were mutual from the get-go. We kissed on our first date, we got matching semicolon tattoos on our second date, and after a couple of weeks of seeing each other, we decided to become “Facebook official.” Brynn and I come with differences, of course—one only needs to look at the color of our skin, hair, and eyes to see that.
When I moved to the US, however, I had to deal with the issue of race—something I barely even considered back home.I was a minority when I lived in Denmark and I was a minority when I lived in the Philippines.There have been a few times where we see something or hear a story of racism and I share a personal story with Rebecca and it surprises her that I’ve experienced something like that, that people are so ignorant.Around women, I often found myself wondering, “Does this white/black/Latina girl really want to hang out with me?
” Or worse, “Does this girl think I’m the Asian stereotype, uh, down there?
It’s so easy to succumb to the stereotypes, notions, and misconceptions you’ve long harbored in your head about foreigners, and that can stop you from going for the woman or man that you deserve. Let your personality, not the color of your skin, stand out.